Oct 7 2010
Dating Tips – Are You Caring or Caretaking?
Caring = giving to another from love, for the joy of it – as a free gift
Caretaking = giving to get love, giving with an agenda attached, giving yourself up
Even though the actions of caring and the actions of caretaking might look exactly the same, the intention is totally different, so the energy of the actions is also completely different.
Sandy is a caretaker. She is constantly doing things for others – sometimes because they ask her to and other times because she believes that is what they want and expect. The problem is that Sandy often abandons herself to give to others, and then expects others to give back to her and fill the emptiness within her caused by her self-abandonment.
The energy of Sandys giving often doesnt feel good to others, as they feel pulled on and obligated to give back.
Monica, on the other hand, has learned through her Inner Bonding® process to connect with her personal source of spiritual Guidance, which enables her to define her own worth so that she isnt needy of others attention and approval.
The energy of Monicas giving feels wonderful – a breath of fresh air that warms the heart and fills the soul.
While Sandy and Monica may do exactly the same thing – for example cook a lovely meal for their partner – the energy of it is totally different because the intent is totally different.
So, while the act of giving the flowers is exactly the same, the intent behind the gift is totally different. We cannot hide our intent, as it is betrayed in our energy. There is a world of difference between the energy of giving to get, and the energy of giving for the joy of it.
This often creates significant confusion between two people. When a person is unconsciously giving with an agenda attached, and the other person is unconsciously responding with some resistance, the giver may feel rejected and the receiver may feel shamed at his or her own lack of appreciation or responsiveness. Only when both people understand intent, and the huge difference between the intent to control vs. the intent to love, can they untangle the interaction.
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